How is it done?
Whether i’m in a situation that sizzles with potential for stress, how do i keep myself cool and focused?
My daughter was on her way to an interview. She knew her entire future would depend on the impression she made. She was dreading mental blackout. She was feeling positive energy but feeling that old mental curtain hovering ready to sabotage her intention. No problem for me. I know what to do to help ease her anxiety. I’ve learned some wonderful, fast, efficient techniques. No problem. I employ techniques and her mind becomes clear and focused and as a result, I feel better. No problem.
But what happens when i’m helpless to apply a technique to the one in stress. What happens when i’m aware of another’s anguish and i am unable to physically offer techniques to make it all better? It seems that the stress falls upon me. My lack of ability to express solution falls back on my heart and mind. How to concentrate on making myself ‘all better’ when the shouts of neighbours pour into my world.
Must i take on their suffering? Is my only solution to close all windows and seal tight all noise barriers?
For now, it seems that what I used on my daughter, the few simple techniques of concentration and relaxation, the clear focus on a well-defined outcome (or my immediate goal) are what i must use on myself.
To help someone else, they must truly want help, and must acknowledge that i can be the agent to help them help themselves. They need to do the work while i facilitate the process.
My daughter was more than willing. I’m more than willing. My neighbours? I am almost afraid to get near that complicated sociogram , so back to myself.
When outer chaos spins its web, it’s back to the source – myself. And first things first – haiku for focus.
signs of summer
neighbour yells at wife
way into night